August 23, 2011
January 25, 2011
The law of attraction is based on reaching for the best feeling thoughts. But without understanding it in a very specific way, it can come across as sheer ignorance.
A rather traditional loved one once told me that we should only believe that which makes us feel good. To some extent, this is true because according to the LOA, a belief is just a thought you keep thinking. But what if you alter your beliefs according to things that you think make you feel good, with a fear of getting stuck in the critical negative stuff along the way?
“It makes me sad to think that milk comes from a grieving mother, so I think about the cows as being happy.”
I don’t know much about Esther and Jerry Hicks’ personal lives, but I do know that they refer to animals as ‘beasts’ and think that animals ask to ‘play the game’ of confinement and slaughter with humans. These thoughts probably feel good to them on some level because they allow them to keep on living a life they’re comfortable with.
Jerry Hicks feels uncomfortable that he owns a traffic jam of luxury cars, so he tells himself that the making of the cars is supplying people with jobs. BUT, if he had stretched his mind over into some potentially uncomfortable territory, he may have come up with different positive thoughts to make himself feel better about being rich, such as lobbying for a higher minimum wage, auctioning off a few of his cars for charity, or becoming involved with the Venus Project to ensure that all transportation is better quality and safer in the future. See the difference? The latter positive thoughts actually require action. Jerry’s positive spin on his guilt about
hoarding acquiring luxury cars is somewhat lazy.
A big part of the law of attraction is about not turning our attention to that which we cannot fix, such as the actions of others. But, if the actions of others are hurting us, then those actions are no longer that person’s personal business.
To each his own – people say who want to wear fur. The fur is soft and looks expensive, so it makes them feel good, they argue. But knowing the statistics of how many animals die horrific deaths in the fur industry each year, this level of suffering directly impacts MY life experience. In order to know these truths, I had to “go there” into some pretty horrific territory. See what I’m saying? You could reach for the easy positive thought and come up with some self-propaganda like: “well, fur is green”, or you could challenge yourself to look at the footage of animals being skinned alive and reach further for a positive thought like: “I’m going to educate people on what they’re wearing so this doesn’t happen anymore, and knowing my power feels good.”
Another example of where Esther and Jerry get just a little too carried away with the (singing) *think-happy-thoughts-hmm-hmm-hmm-doo-doo-dooo* is when Esther/Abraham states that it is NEVER of value to talk about problems with a friend.
“There is no reason to deliberately stir up problems in order to stir up solution.”
“It is detrimental to you and to whomever you draw into your negative conversation.”
I think Marianne Williamson explains it best by suggesting you approach hardship with a statement like:
eg. “I’m fucking pissed, but I’m willing not to be.”
Acknowledging you’re suffering in order to learn how to ease the pain.
She suggests not to try to purify yourself, but to go to your Source to be purified.
If I was hurting and couldn’t see a way out of it, I would hope that a friend would let me into their mental space for a moment to hear me out, allow me to be where I’m at, and then show me a more positive spin on things as an option. That’s how I see my role as a friend.
I’ve had a few friends who I’ve mentioned sticky situations to in the past who have said things like: “I don’t want to hear about it”, or “oh well, (change the subject)”.
I don’t see this as a refusal to be caught in negative energy, but as individuals acting on judgment for whatever reason (they don’t think they’re strong enough to take on your problem/they’re holding themselves above you/they’re emotionally unavailable – whatever).
Bottom line: it is indifference, not hate which is the opposite of love.To care about people, sometimes you must accompany them on their journeys to difficult places.
Misery loves company could be reworded – humans love company.
In order to not fall into ignorance when attempting to use the law of attraction, I’d suggest:
- don’t reach for the easy positive thought, reach for the active solution
- don’t cram sunshine and rainbows down the throats of depressed friends
- don’t be afraid to go into the darkness to learn what light is to you